To make good decisions we must first understand that our decisions affect more than just ourselves, it affects the people around us. It’s important to understand the importance of making good decisions. We need to ask ourselves, “Who will be affected by the decisions I make today”? Here are 4 reasons why you should make good decisions starting now.
As an older brother and Christian, I not only have to think about myself when it comes to making decisions but also the people who look up to me – my siblings (and friends). Whether I like it or not, what I decide to do will impact the lives of others.
The same applies to you; the decisions and choices you make will impact those around you. I believe the first step to making good decisions is realizing it’s not all about you. Someone is watching you, mimicking you and observing your every move.
According to the dictionary, the word “influence” means having the power (or capacity) to be compelling or producing effects on the actions, behavior and opinions of others. This means that you have the power to produce an effect on a person’s actions, behavior and opinions based upon the decisions you make.
Think about it; your decisions affect another person’s actions, behaviors and opinions. If you’re going to begin making good decisions, start with considering those whom you are influencing. Begin to ask yourself, “Will my decisions have a positive or negative effect on those around me? Am I setting a good example for those who look up to me?” This should bring awareness as to the decisions you make and the people who are affected by it.
Your Life is an Example
Your life is an example to others on how to or how not to live. As the oldest, my life is an example to my siblings on how to handle a variety of situations. This includes things such as how to respond to those who are rude, how to manage money, how to be responsible, how to shop on a budget and so on.
If I decided to make poor decisions and curse every person who was rude to me, what type of example am I setting for my siblings and those who I influence? Not a good one. Every day life requires every day decisions and the decisions I make is not only influential but also an illustration to the people around me.
One step towards making good decisions is to realize that your life is an open book and somebody is reading it. They are evaluating the decisions you make, the outcome of your decisions and how you handle different situations.
For example: When I made a decision not to play music with profanity, my siblings noticed the change. Not only did they notice, but they begin to slowly do the same. My decision not only affected me, but my siblings as well.
Long Term Affects
Think about it, everything you do now, every solitary decision you make affects you in the long run one way or another. By making a decision to budget my finances, I can expect slowly but surely to get out of debt; by making a decision to learn one new word everyday has a long term affect of giving me an extensive vocabulary.
Every decision you make today will impact your tomorrow. A decision that took 3 seconds to make can cost you a lifetime of wanted or unwanted events. When you make a decision ask yourself, “what are the long term affects; is this a good or bad decision I’m making?”
Make a decision to change how you look at life realizing that a quick non thought-out decision can have a negative effect on your life and those around you.
Living with Regrets
Oftentimes, people make poor decisions. That’s fine; we all make mistakes (even I). However, I think it’s important to learn from the decisions we make. Choosing not to learn from poor decisions can result in a life full of regrets. “I wish I didn’t do this; If I only done x,y,z; If I can only tell (name) that I love them and etc” The feeling of wishing you could go back in time and change what you’ve done or should have said is painful but you can prevent this.
Dictionary.com defines the term “regret” as a feeling of sorrow or remorse for an act, fault, or disappointment.
You can’t go back in time changing the things of the past but you can decide today that you will make good decisions that will give you satisfying, appeasing, joyful results. Don’t wait 10 years later or until it’s too late to decide to do so. You can make a change now, starting today.
Finial Words on Making Good Decisions
I was told, “When you drive, you’re not driving for yourself but you’re driving for others too.” I didn’t fully understand that until I begin to drive and realized that not every person drives with caution. So I say to you, “When you make decisions, you’re not making decisions for yourself, but also for the people around you.”
Quick rundown of what was addressed:
- Your decisions are influential; having the power to effect a person’s actions, behavior and opinions.
- Your decisions is an illustration (an example) to others on how to and how not to live.
- Your decisions have long term affects; what you do today will affect your tomorrow.
- Poor decisions can lead to regrets; however you have the power to change this now by choosing today to make good decisions.
God bless you in Jesus name.