Usually, I use this platform to encourage and inspire Christians around the world. However, this post is a little different. I stand in the need of prayer and encouragement. Without going into too much detail, here is my story:
October 24th, 2016 at 0236, I received a call from my baby sister stating our 8-month old niece Nyvea was at the hospital. Less than an hour later, at 0315 I received another call from my baby sister crying profusely. She uttered the words no one wants to hear, “Nyvea is dead. She’s dead.” I immediately got in my car and drove to my sister.
I should share with you that up until this point, my family and I have never dealt with a death within our immediate family. So not only is this new to us, but it hit us hard. As you can imagine, this is beyond devastating for my family. We are still coping and dealing with the fact that Baby Nyvea is no longer with us. We have all cried and are still mourning. Some days are better than others. Yesterday however was a hard day for me.
In proxy of the baby’s mother, I went to the funeral home to make funeral arrangements for Baby Nyvea. On the drive there, I became saddened. It felt like the closer I was to the location, the more sadden I became. I honestly dreaded the drive and wished it were all a dream. But it’s not. It’s very much real. Upon my arrival to the funeral home, I managed to hold my composure. But I’d be lying if I told you I didn’t want to cry afterwards. At times, the passing of my niece feels surreal.
I understand death is a part of life. It happens every day. However, it is different when it hits home. It just saddens me that it happened to my niece. Again, she was only 8 months old. It was sudden and unforeseeable.
By the grace of God, we’ve managed to raise enough money on GoFundMe to give my niece, Baby Nyvea, a proper funeral service and cremation.
This experience taught me to cherish my loved ones while they are here. Surely one can be here today and gone tomorrow. This experience also taught me the importance of having life insurance. No one knows the day nor the hour they may take their last breath. Please, make sure you and your loved ones have an insurance policy. Depending on the policy amount, it can cost as little as $4-$8 per month for term life insurance for an infant or child. Maybe as little as $10-$15 per month for an adult, again, depending on the coverage amount and other factors. This will take the hassle out of wondering how the family is going to come up with the money to give a proper funeral and burial/cremation for their loved one.
Baby Nyvea’s funeral is this Saturday, November 12th. We will view her one last time and give her our final goodbyes. Please, only if you know the Lord Jesus Christ and know the words of prayer…. pray for the strength and comfort of my family. We will need it. Thank you for your prayers and thoughts. We sincerely appreciate it.
UPDATE: 11/13/16 (The Day After the Funeral)
The night before your funeral I had a lot on my mind. A lot of feelings I wouldn’t quite put into words. However, somehow I managed to grab my iPhone and write the following few words of expression:
So the reality of you being gone is sinking in more. In about 15 hours I will see you. But it’ll be much different this time from the last time I seen you.
I feel down. Somehow I managed to get through work today. I’m not sure how I’m gonna get through the next few hours, especially tomorrow. I’m not sure how I will handle seeing you lay in your bassinet.
That night I didn’t get much sleep. I went to bed about 1AM and woke up about 5ish-AM. When I opened up the doors to the Chapel and saw you in your bassinet front and center, I wasn’t sure how I was going to respond as I approached you. I didn’t cry. You looked so peaceful, so beautiful resting with your eyes closed. I think I found peace in how peaceful you looked. Knowing you are now in Heaven. You were dressed in a white dress. Had a white bow on your head. The funeral home did a great job dressing you up. They even had children music playing in the background quietly during the service.
You were surrounded by family and friends who all loved you. Many shared their memories of you. Some cried. Some smiled at how peaceful you looked. Your sisters, Nyeemah and Nyomi were there too. I walked them into the Chapel, and up to your bassinet. They looked and watched you, resting. They cried too, but they were surround by family and friends to comfort them. Individually, they said, “bye Nyvea.” It was a reality for them that this would be the last time they would see their baby sister. Your mom was there too. She cried and weeped. I went to comfort her. This was a lost for all of us, but it broke my heart to watch my sister weep and cry. Even as I write, I shed a tear because that’s how much my heart aches for her pain of losing a child.
Your Auntie was there too, Auntie Precious. She weeped and weeped. All of us shared in the pain of not having you here with us. Your Daddy was there too. So many people was there, to celebrate your life Lil’Nyvea.
There was one thing apparent yesterday during the service…so many people love you. You leave behind beautiful memories that will forever live in our hearts.
I know you are in Heaven with God’s host of Angels. You have taught me to value my family more, to be present more, and to say I love you more.
Sometime in the coming days, I will receive a call to pick up your remains. I told your mom I would help her to select an urn for you.
We love you, Baby Nyvea. One day, we will all reunite. Until then, rest in the arms of the almighty King.
“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted” (Matthew 5:4)
Me and Baby Nyvea
Baby Nyvie was with us for a short while, but she is missed and will forever live in our hearts.
I love you my sweet little angel. Tell Jesus I said “Hello”.
Naquan (“Uncle Quan”)